If you’re trying to fix premature ejaculation, you’ve probably Googled around and found a bunch of options. Reddit guides, free PDFs, apps, even hardware devices.
The problem is: they all claim to work, and it’s hard to know which one is right for you.
So I’m going to do something that might seem dumb for someone who built a competing app. I’m going to give you an honest comparison of everything out there. What’s good, what’s not, and who each option is actually best for.
Full disclosure: I built Control. I obviously think it’s the best option for most people, but I’ll be straight with you about where other approaches might work better for your specific situation.
The Landscape
Here’s what’s out there:
Free resources:
- The Definitive Guide (Reddit)
- The Control Blueprint (PDF)
- Various Reddit threads and forum posts
Paid apps: - Control: Last Longer (that’s us)
- Slow Down
- Myhixel (app + device)
- Dr. Kegel / Kegel Men
- The Coach
Let’s break each one down.
The Definitive Guide (Reddit)
What it is: A comprehensive guide posted on r/PrematureEjaculation that became the gold standard for free PE advice. Focuses heavily on reverse kegels, breathing, and arousal awareness training.
Cost: Free
What’s good:
- It’s free and genuinely helpful
- Strong community around it for support and questions
- Really good for nervous system hyperreactivity — the breathing and edging focus hits this cause hard
- The reverse kegel emphasis is correct (most guys are too tight, not too weak)
- If you follow it consistently, it can absolutely work
What’s not great: - One-size-fits-all approach — if hyperreactivity isn’t your main issue, you might be focusing on the wrong things
- Very strict rules that can feel rigid and discouraging
- No personalization to your specific situation
- No tracking or feedback — you’re flying blind on whether it’s working
- Easy to lose motivation without structure
- Requires a lot of self-discipline to piece together and follow
Best for: Guys whose main issue is nervous system hyperreactivity (anxious, tense, escalate fast). If that’s you and you’re disciplined enough to stick with it for months, this can work.
Rating: ⭐⭐⭐⭐ (4/5) — genuinely good, just limited by lack of personalization
The Control Blueprint (PDF)
What it is: A 7-day repeating program covering awareness, habits, drills, and recovery. Includes supplements, exercises, and edging protocols.
Cost: Free
What’s good:
- Structured day-by-day program — easier to follow than piecing together Reddit advice
- Covers multiple angles: breathing, pelvic floor, stretching, edging
- Includes recovery days which most programs ignore
- Free and comprehensive
What’s not great: - Includes a lot of stuff that’s... probably not necessary? Supplements, specific teas, etc. Some of it feels like filler
- No personalization — everyone gets the same 7-day cycle regardless of their specific issues
- No tracking or feedback mechanism
- Some exercises are poorly explained
- Misses some key things (arousal awareness training is light, no assessment of your specific causes)
Best for: Guys who want a structured free program and are willing to sort through what’s essential vs. what’s fluff.
Rating: ⭐⭐⭐ (3/5) — decent structure, but too much noise and no personalization
Dr. Kegel / Kegel Men Apps
What it is: Apps focused specifically on kegel exercises — timers, guided sessions, progress tracking for pelvic floor training.
Cost: Freemium (basic free, premium ~$10-15/month)
What’s good:
- If your problem is specifically a weak pelvic floor, this is solid
- Clean interface, easy to follow
- Good for building the habit of daily pelvic floor work
What’s not great: - Only addresses one potential cause (pelvic floor weakness)
- Doesn’t differentiate between tight and weak pelvic floors — this is a big miss
- If your issue is hyperreactivity or poor arousal awareness, kegels alone won’t help
- Can actually make things worse if you’re already too tight (most desk workers are)
Best for: Guys who know for certain their pelvic floor is weak (not tight), and that’s their primary issue. This is a small subset of PE sufferers.
Rating: ⭐⭐⭐ (3/5) — good at what it does, but most guys need more than just kegels
Slow Down
What it is: A multi-level app program combining relaxation, breathing, desensitization, and stop-start training. Six levels from “scout” to “master.”
Cost: ~$15-20/month or ~$60/year
What’s good:
- Comprehensive approach covering multiple techniques
- Gamified progression (levels, badges)
- Includes partner exercises
What’s not great: - No real personalization — everyone goes through the same levels
- Mixed reviews on execution and user experience
- Some reports of pushy subscription tactics
- Doesn’t assess what your specific causes are
Best for: Guys who want a structured app program and like the gamified level progression.
Rating: ⭐⭐⭐ (3/5) — decent but nothing special
Myhixel
What it is: A hardware device (basically a training sleeve) paired with an app. Uses cognitive behavioral techniques with physical training.
Cost: ~$200+ for the device
What’s good:
- The only option that includes a physical training device
- Based on actual clinical research
- Simulates real stimulation for more realistic training
- Can work well for sensory conditioning
What’s not great: - Expensive upfront cost
- Requires privacy and time to use the device
- Still no personalization to your specific causes
- Overkill if your issues are primarily nervous system or awareness based
Best for: Guys who have budget, privacy, and want a hardware-assisted approach. Good if you’ve tried other things and want something different.
Rating: ⭐⭐⭐⭐ (4/5) — legit option if you can afford it and have the privacy
The Coach
What it is: A broader men’s health app that includes PE as one of its focus areas. Combines physical fitness, sleep, and sexual health.
Cost: Premium subscription required
What’s good:
- Holistic approach to men’s health
- Good if you want to improve overall fitness alongside PE
What’s not great: - PE is just one piece of a broader app — not as focused
- Jack of all trades, master of none situation
- Less depth on PE specifically than dedicated options
Best for: Guys who want a general men’s health app and PE is just one of several things they want to work on.
Rating: ⭐⭐⭐ (3/5) — fine, but not PE-focused enough
Control: Last Longer (Us)
What it is: Assessment-first PE training app. Identifies your specific combination of causes, builds a personalized 12-week + maintenance training program, tracks progress with a Control Score.
Cost: Subscription required (see the app for current pricing)
What I think we do well:
- Personalization from day one. The assessment figures out which causes apply to you — hyperreactivity, muscular dysfunction, pelvic floor issues, poor arousal awareness, conditioned patterns — and builds your program around that. Not everyone gets the same thing.
- Tracking and feedback. You can see your Control Score trend over time, log sessions, see which techniques are working. You’re not flying blind.
- Gamification that helps consistency. XP, streaks, levels — the stuff that makes you actually do it daily instead of giving up after two weeks.
- Covers all the causes. Breathing, pelvic floor (both strengthening AND relaxation), stretches, strength work, arousal awareness, mindfulness. The plan adjusts to what you need.
What we’re still working on: - The consistency problem is hard. We’ve added gamification but some people still drop off. This is our biggest area of focus.
- We’re iOS only right now. Android coming but not there yet.
- We’re a paid app. If you’re broke and disciplined, the free Reddit guides might be a better fit for you.
Best for: Guys who want a personalized, structured approach with tracking and feedback. Especially if you’ve tried generic advice and it hasn’t worked — that’s usually because it wasn’t targeting your specific issues.
Rating: I’m obviously biased, but I think we’re the most comprehensive option for most people. The personalization is the key difference.
The Real Question: What’s YOUR Problem?
Here’s the thing most comparisons miss: different programs work for different causes. And nobody’s Googling “best app for nervous system hyperreactivity” — you’re trying to figure out why you can’t last and what to do about it.
So let me translate the clinical causes into how you actually experience this:
Although side note if you do want to understand the causes, we have a post about this here
Type 1: The Wired Guy (Nervous System Hyperreactivity)
Signs this might be you:
- You’ve had PE your whole life — not something that started recently
- You last longer when you’re drunk or high
- You last longer when you’re exhausted or sleep deprived
- You last longer after a hard workout
- You’re generally an anxious or stressed person
- You feel “revved up” before anything even starts
- Kegels haven’t helped at all, maybe made it worse
- SSRIs helped when you tried them (but you don’t want to be on meds)
Best options: The Definitive Guide (free) or Control
Type 2: The Desk Worker (Muscular Dysfunction)
Signs this might be you:
- You sit 8+ hours a day at a desk job
- You have lower back pain or constantly tight hips
- You feel weirdly disconnected from your pelvic area — like you can’t feel or control what’s happening down there
- You’ve never really done stretching or mobility work
- Your PE got worse after starting a sedentary job
- You feel “locked up” in your hips and core
Best options: Control Blueprint or Control: Last Longer
Type 3: The Clencher (Pelvic Floor Dysfunction - Tight)
Signs this might be you:
- Kegels made things worse, not better
- You feel like you’re clenching or holding tension all the time — even when you try to relax
- You carry stress in your body (tight jaw, shoulders, etc.)
- You have trouble fully relaxing during sex
- You notice you’re squeezing muscles you shouldn’t be
- You find yourself holding your breath during sex
Best options: The Definitive Guide or Control
Type 4: The Weak Floor (Pelvic Floor Dysfunction - Weak)
Signs this might be you:
- You feel like you have zero ability to hold back — like there’s no brake pedal at all
- You might have some urinary issues (dribbling, urgency)
- Kegels actually did help a bit when you tried them
- You don’t feel particularly tight or clenched
Best options: Dr. Kegel apps or Control
Type 5: The Blindsided Guy (Poor Arousal Awareness)
Signs this might be you:
- It feels like you go from “fine” to “done” with no warning
- You don’t notice you’re close until it’s already happening
- You’ve tried stop-start but can never stop in time — you’re always too late
- You feel like you have two settings: not aroused and about to cum
- During sex you’re either totally in your head or totally checked out — no middle ground
Best options: Any program with edging/awareness focus — Control Blueprint, Definitive Guide, or Control
Type 6: The Conditioned Guy (Learned Patterns)
Signs this might be you:
- You masturbate fast — always have, it’s just how you do it
- Your early sexual experiences were rushed or anxious
- You watch porn and skip around / fast forward to finish quickly
- PE got worse after a dry spell — like your body “forgot” how to last
- You feel like your body just automatically does this now, like it’s on autopilot
Best options: Myhixel or Control
Type 7: “I Have No Idea” (Multiple Causes or Uncertain)
Signs this might be you:
- Some of the above resonate but not clearly one thing
- You’ve tried random tips and nothing has consistently worked
- You’re not sure if it’s physical, mental, or both
- You just want something that figures it out for you
Best option: Control (the assessment is designed for exactly this)
Quick Reference
The mistake most guys make is grabbing whatever program they find first and hoping it works. Then when it doesn’t, they assume nothing will work.
The reality is: the program probably just wasn’t targeting their actual issue.
My Honest Take
If you’re broke and disciplined, start with The Definitive Guide. It’s free and genuinely good for a specific subset of issues.
If you want structure without paying, try The Control Blueprint, just ignore the supplement stuff and focus on the core exercises.
If you have no idea what’s causing your PE and want something that figures it out for you, that’s what we built Control to do. The assessment exists because I spent years trying generic advice that didn’t work for me, turns out I was focusing on the wrong things.
Whatever you choose: stick with it for at least 6-8 weeks. Nothing works in a few days. Consistency beats everything.
Download Control on the App Store
Coming Up
- How we calculate your Control Score — the radar chart and what each axis means
- Case studies — real user journeys with before/after data